You Win Some, You Lose Some, But Always Plan to Win More
I love my job. Next to my family, it’s the best part of my life. But let’s be realistic. Work isn’t always easy. And that’s an important matter to address.
I described in my previous post the need to be positive. That doesn’t mean that you won’t encounter difficulties, situations that get you frustrated and even angry, and matters that will turn a good day into stressful one.
That’s the reality principal. And it’s a tough balance. You’ve always got to remain positive, but you can never bury your head in the sand and deny adversity when it arises. Set backs are always there. It’s your job to address them with a positive attitude.
During difficult times, here are some tips to get you through the rough patches:
Surround Yourself with Beautiful Things
After an exhausting meeting, where the outcome was far from favorable, maybe I lost a major listing or dealt with a difficult client, I’ll return to my office. Sitting on my desk is an exquisite floral arrangement and a soothing aromatic candle.
Surround yourself with things that give you pleasure: family photos, artwork that lifts your spirits, or a saying or phrase that inspires you.
Like I described in my book, an empty listing has no soul. Similarly an office or desk without your favorite things is far from motivating.
When you relax and calm down you bring yourself into a more peaceful place. From there, you're able to refocus. Time after time, I've found solutions to get around my disappointment or frustration.
Breathe Deeply
Science has proven the benefits behind what humans have been practicing for centuries. You don’t need to be a long time meditator to feel the revitalizing effects of deep breathing. When thoughts and stress are building up in your mind, sit tall, plant your feet on the ground, and inhale deeply. Imagine the life-giving oxygen filling all parts of your body. You’ll feel so much better as a result.
When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Go Shopping (or Take a Walk)
You’re all stressed out. You don’t know what to do. It’s time to clear your head. Remove yourself from what’s giving you stress by leaving your desk or office.
Now go shopping! Buy something fun. Totally indulge yourself. It'll give you the motivation to go forward.
If your budget doesn't allow it, or shopping isn't your thing, step outside and observe your surroundings: the weather, the sky, and the people around you. Appreciate your life.
Whether you return with new Jimmy Choo's or just your clear minded self, you’ll see things from a different perspective than when you first walked out the door.
My Unscientifically Based Belief of the Curative Effects of Cappuccino and Chocolate
When I return to my office after a stressful meeting, I’ll sit at my desk and sip on a smooth drink and nibble on some chocolate. It doesn’t have to be a lot, in fact, it shouldn’t.
But a small snack (make sure it's fabulously indulging) is definitely worth the few extra minutes you'll spend at the gym working it off.
Learn from Others
My Dad is an inspiration. My mom passed away recently, and I know it’s been difficult for him. But as a Holocaust survivor, he knows how to take charge of his life.
He’s 88 years old now and loves classical music. So what did he do? He hopped on the bus and paid the $10 fare from Marina Del Rey to the Hollywood Bowl and bought a $10 concert ticket (Senior Citizen's discounts are wonderful, aren't they?).
Once at the Bowl, he took a seat, closed his eyes, and opened his ears to the music that surrounded him. Amazing!
He could have sat at home and sulked. He could have felt sorry for himself. Instead he embraced life and filled it with the music that brings him joy.
You can be a couch potato and watch life from the comfort of a sofa. Or you can dive into it, actively participate in it, and take it for its ups and downs. There’s no doubt that there will be difficult moments. But when you love life, you’ll have the skills to embrace it all: good and bad.
When you're at peace with yourself, the situations that brought about disappointment, frustration or anger will subside, and you'll find solutions. ♦Digg it ♦del.icio.us ♦Add to Technorati Faves
I described in my previous post the need to be positive. That doesn’t mean that you won’t encounter difficulties, situations that get you frustrated and even angry, and matters that will turn a good day into stressful one.
That’s the reality principal. And it’s a tough balance. You’ve always got to remain positive, but you can never bury your head in the sand and deny adversity when it arises. Set backs are always there. It’s your job to address them with a positive attitude.
During difficult times, here are some tips to get you through the rough patches:
Surround Yourself with Beautiful Things
After an exhausting meeting, where the outcome was far from favorable, maybe I lost a major listing or dealt with a difficult client, I’ll return to my office. Sitting on my desk is an exquisite floral arrangement and a soothing aromatic candle.
Surround yourself with things that give you pleasure: family photos, artwork that lifts your spirits, or a saying or phrase that inspires you.
Like I described in my book, an empty listing has no soul. Similarly an office or desk without your favorite things is far from motivating.
When you relax and calm down you bring yourself into a more peaceful place. From there, you're able to refocus. Time after time, I've found solutions to get around my disappointment or frustration.
Breathe Deeply
Science has proven the benefits behind what humans have been practicing for centuries. You don’t need to be a long time meditator to feel the revitalizing effects of deep breathing. When thoughts and stress are building up in your mind, sit tall, plant your feet on the ground, and inhale deeply. Imagine the life-giving oxygen filling all parts of your body. You’ll feel so much better as a result.
When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Go Shopping (or Take a Walk)
You’re all stressed out. You don’t know what to do. It’s time to clear your head. Remove yourself from what’s giving you stress by leaving your desk or office.
Now go shopping! Buy something fun. Totally indulge yourself. It'll give you the motivation to go forward.
If your budget doesn't allow it, or shopping isn't your thing, step outside and observe your surroundings: the weather, the sky, and the people around you. Appreciate your life.
Whether you return with new Jimmy Choo's or just your clear minded self, you’ll see things from a different perspective than when you first walked out the door.
My Unscientifically Based Belief of the Curative Effects of Cappuccino and Chocolate
When I return to my office after a stressful meeting, I’ll sit at my desk and sip on a smooth drink and nibble on some chocolate. It doesn’t have to be a lot, in fact, it shouldn’t.
But a small snack (make sure it's fabulously indulging) is definitely worth the few extra minutes you'll spend at the gym working it off.
Learn from Others
My Dad is an inspiration. My mom passed away recently, and I know it’s been difficult for him. But as a Holocaust survivor, he knows how to take charge of his life.
He’s 88 years old now and loves classical music. So what did he do? He hopped on the bus and paid the $10 fare from Marina Del Rey to the Hollywood Bowl and bought a $10 concert ticket (Senior Citizen's discounts are wonderful, aren't they?).
Once at the Bowl, he took a seat, closed his eyes, and opened his ears to the music that surrounded him. Amazing!
He could have sat at home and sulked. He could have felt sorry for himself. Instead he embraced life and filled it with the music that brings him joy.
You can be a couch potato and watch life from the comfort of a sofa. Or you can dive into it, actively participate in it, and take it for its ups and downs. There’s no doubt that there will be difficult moments. But when you love life, you’ll have the skills to embrace it all: good and bad.
When you're at peace with yourself, the situations that brought about disappointment, frustration or anger will subside, and you'll find solutions. ♦Digg it ♦del.icio.us ♦Add to Technorati Faves
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